How to Win Friends and Influence People

Six Ways to Make People like You. If you want people to like you...

Rule 1: Become genuinely interested in other people.

“Do this and you will be welcome anywhere.”

“You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”

“Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering.”

Reflection: By becoming attentitive with other people you will help their self-esteem. For example, if you let them speak with what they have to say, they would respect you more. Like, if they start talking about problems going on at home, then you rudly interupt them they will most likely want to become your friend. By trying so hard in talking about all the cool stuff you are going to do this summer you aren't going to win friends like that. You must ask them about themselves and their plans or anything related towards them. Meaning be interested in them annd no only talk about yourself.

Rule 2: Smile

“Actions speak louder than words, and a smile says, “I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you.”

“You don’t feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile.”

“It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends.”

Reflection: Another way to make someone like you, is to smile more. Smiling is a great way to want someone to become your friend because this will indicate that you are just a friendly face. For example, if you look like an irritated human being then no one will approach you. But on the other hand if you show that you are a compassionate individual then someone will approach you to become their friend.

Rule 3: Remember Names

“A man’s name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language.”

“If you don’t remember names, you are headed for trouble.”

Reflection: The third way in "How to Win Friends and Influence People" is by remembering the names of the people. For example, if you work in a business company or a store that sells products you must remember the names of previous customers that have entered the store. This will improve your business/ store by improving your sales. Even, though it is difficult to remember someone who you have only seen once, there are many ways to help you improve your memory. Like, finding a feature about them to help you remember the next time you come encounter with them. Another way to help you remember names is by repeating the name as many times so you can remember. Remembering names is very important because if you don't remember the names properly, then the people will want someone who does. My mom works at a bank called Wells Fargo so she is familiar with remembering people's name because she hears stories from them that helps her remember who they are. Another trick my mother uses is that she uses the name of the customer by imagining something that goes with them. For example, there is this lady that enters the bank that only wears one color from head to toe. Like, if she decides to wear only purple that day then she wears purple earings, hat, nails, clothes, etc. so my mother would remember her as the lady with colors or something like that. 

Rule 4: Be a Good Listener. Encourage Others to Talk About Themselves.

“If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener.”

“Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.”

Reflection: The fourth rule talks about being a good listener and to encourage them to talk about themselves. You can encourage them by asking them about what they enjoy doing and anything you think they would be open to talk about. This will help you make friends by talking only about them. 

Five Tips for Active Listening:

1.      Stay Focus: Don’t judge and be patient

2.    Really Listen: Don’t think about your similar experiences and what you should do next.

3.    Allow for periods of silence: Wait till’ the other person speaks again.

4.    From time to time, repeat the other person’s words or paraphrase it back to them.

5.     Understand the emotions behind the words: When you paraphrase you will understand what or how they feel.

Rule 5: Talk in Terms of the other man’s Interest

“The royal road to a man’s heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most.”

Reflection: In step 5, it talks about asking other people on what they enjoy doing. This can help you to make someone like you by taking their interest to know more about them and their life. The person may think you will be like the other people who are constantly interupting the person talking and talking about themselves. The people who constantly interupt other people will most likely to loose friends because he/she is annoying. 

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.

“The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.”

(John Dewey)

“Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic.”

Reflection: The sixth step to win people over is to make the other person feel important. This step is a great step because if you do not make the other person feel powerful.

Reflection: In the "Six Ways to Make People Like You" the rules to teach you many ways in order to make a new friend and keep them with you. The 1st step talks about "Become Genuinelly Interested In Other People." This step is important because if you do not listen to what that person has to say or let them speak then they will feel uninterested in becoming your friend. The 2nd step is to "Smile." If you do not crack a smile once in a while then the person will feel like you do not like them and leave. Step 3 is to "Remember Names." Remembering names can help you in company wise or community wise because people perfer to be around someone who remebers who they are. Step 4 is "Be a Good Listener. Encourage Others to Talk About Themselves." By encouraging others to talk about themselves then they will triger the person to know that you want to know more about them. The 5th step says, "Talk in Terms of the other man's Interest." This rule says to talk about what the other person likes to do and go do it. The last rule, step 6 talks about "Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely." This step helps people want to become your friend because you can improve their personality and insecurity.

Glenn Cunningham-Have Heart

Crippled Glenn Cunningham Became an Olympian and Doctor

Reflection: Glenn Cunningham lost his older brother in an explosion at age seven. He was legs were seriously burned during this incident. While in the hospital the doctor had told his mother that he may never walk again. Glenn choose not to believe that so he told his mother that he will walk again, which brought tears in her eyes. So during his hard work of doing the impossible, Glenn began to walk again in about 22 months later. He wanted to pursue his dream as becoming to be in the Olympics. In 1936 he got a silver medal in the World Olympics Games in Berlin. Glenn did achieve another goal which was to become a doctor. Glenn Cunningham is inspirational because he did not give up.

Becky

This random girl that sits next to me has light brown hair. She likes to play with playdough and eat chicken ice cream. Her favorite color is yellow and brown. She lives with chickens in a barn house next to a frozen mountain. She likes to listen to Paris Hilton. Her favorite food is oysters and tootie rolls. Becky practicaly lives at church, she goes everyday after school. She likes playing patty cake with raccons and hopscotch with sharks. Becky has a secret identity she has a collection of my little ponies and cabbage patch kids. Her favorite movie is Care Bears the Movie. Her favorite song is Barbie Girl by Aqua and Friday by Rebecca Black. Her favorite restaurant is Church Chicken.

“The Six Attitudes of High Achievers”

Make No Small Plans

Quote:

“Make no little plans;

They have no magic to stir men’s blood

And probably they will not be realized.

Make big plan; aim high in hope and work,

Remembering that a noble,

Logical diagram once recorded will never die,

But long after we are gone will be a living thing,

Asserting itself with ever-growing insistence."

Reflection: This quote talks about the importance of aiming for high plans. If you aim high you will have challenges and the work in the end will all be worth it. For example, if your aim is to graduate high school and get a job then that isn't working high enough. You should have goals, after graduating high school you will achieve a higher plan and keep going to school until you get a bachelors degree or higher. A high aim is like what you see in the future of what you want to pursue.

Do What They Fear

Quote:

"Fear is the brains way of saying

That there is something important

For you to overcome"

Reflection: This quote is important because fear does overcome in the minds of many people. People get scared in what the future holds, they don't set out a goal in with which to set to achieve it. But, instead the brain uses the fears of that person pushing them to pursue it. For example, when you don't pass the mathematics class in college you have to take it again. But, for some part people decide not not to due to the fear of failure agian. This fear can help the person to keep trying till they understand the standards of mathematics. Therefore, fear is important for the brain to overcome.

Are Willing to Prepare

Quote:

"Proper preparation prevents poor performance." 

Reflection:

Are Willing to Risk Failure

Quote: 

"If you want something you can have it,

But only if you want everything that goes with it,

Including all the hard work and the despair,

And only if you're willing to risk failure."

Reflection: By risking failure you are helping yourself to improve your mistakes. Then by the mistakes you can go back and fixing them to try it out again. For example, when you get a wrong answer on your homework assignment, you ask the teacher or find examples to help you improve your wrong answer. Another way is when you have you take a chance by asking someone out. They may say yes or no. But you are risking yourself to failure if you don't try again.

Are Teachable

Quote:

“Admitting that you need help…

doesn’t make you broken.

It makes you fixable.

And teachable.”

Reflection: Teachable means able to learn by being tought. This means that the students that want to master the subject(s) will do so by asking questions about the lecture or assignments to the teacher explaining the lesson. This student is teachable because he/ or she will want to absorb as much information until the student gets it. 

Have Heart

Quote:

“To be rich,

Is not what you have in your bank account,

But what you have in your heart.”

Reflection: This quote is an excellent illustration the caption "Have Heart" because it indicates that it shouldn't matter how much money you have, but what matters is how you treat others. For example, the dog in the picture above shows compassion to the man who is penniless and disable, by giving up his bone. Another example, is when you help your community by picking up wrappers and/or trash found on the floor, even though the trash was not yours. 

Reflection: We have been learning about the ”The Six Attitudes of High Achievers” which are: Make no small plans, Do what they fear, Are willing to prepare, Are willing to risk failure, Are teachable, and Have heart. In “make no small plans” means that there shouldn’t be just only small goals. This meaning that you make high goals/plans to push yourself to achieve them. Next is “do what they fear”, this means that you should take an extra mile to change the impossible into possible. Then there is “Are willing to prepare” this means that you are ready to learn. The next one is “Are willing to risk failure” this means that you okay with failing but will keep trying till you get it right or do it right. After this one is “Are teachable” meaning that you are willing to be taught instead of just giving up and not understanding the lesson. Lastly, there is “Have heart” this means that you should appreciate what you have and help others like shelters, homeless, or any other organization to help others and the community. 

Way to Be

9 Ways to be Happy and Make Something of Your Life

Gordon B. Hinckley





Be Grateful

Definition: warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received: thankful

Quote: 

"You gotta look for the good in the bad, the happy in your sad, 

the gain in your pain, 

and what makes you grateful not hateful."

Reflection: This quote is an excellent because it shows the importance of being grateful. The quote talks about taking out the good from the bad and to thank all if not most things in life. For example, you should thank your parents/ or guardians for what they have done for you to be in this world.

Be Smart

Definition:

Quote:

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Be Involved in Good Works

Definition: charitable acts

Quote:

"Good Works

I will help others and build the kingdom

through righteous service"

Reflection: This quote talks about how we can can help someone is by giving s helping hand to someone in need. For example, if your 67 year old neighbor needs assisting in her groceries, you can help her by carrying her groceries to her door.

Be Clean

Definition: morally uncontaminated; pure; innocent

Quote: 

"I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet."

Reflection: This quote talks about when you 

Be True

Definition: accurate or exact 

Quote:

"Be true to yourself no matter what.

 It may not be right for someone else,

 but it's right for you."

Reflection: This quote is wonderful because by being candid you can are true to yourself. For example, when your friends want to go out and go drink so they ask you if you want to join. What would you do? Go or be true to yourself. Meaning that you know you should say no and work on a project coming up.

Be Positive

Definition: constructive in intention or attitude

Quote:

Reflection: This quote is marvelous because when you have a negative attitude it can tear down someone else's reaction towards you. This meaning that if you have unpleasant temper then the people around you will try to avoid being in contact with you. So people should evade from the gloomy approach and attempt to be ecstatic of the things around us. 

Be Humble

Definition: having or showing a modest or low estimate of one's own importance

Quote: 

"You are strong when

you know your weaknesses.

You are humble when

you're aware of your flaws.

You are wise when you

learn from your mistakes."

Reflection: 

Be Still

Definition: 

Quote:

"Learning how to be still

and let life happen. 

That stillness becomes a radiance.

Reflection: By being still, is like saying someone is peaceful. For example, when you be still with your neighbors by inviting then to your house party and not yelling at them for not picking up their trash out in front of the lawn. People should be still because without it, we people will be at each others throats all the time. In this economic system we aren't being still with each other. We Allie with one another instead of finding a better way that all can participate. Another example, is when being still become a luminosity. 

Be Prayerful

Definition: (of an action or event) characterized by or expressive of prayer

Quote:

Reflection:

9 Ways Reflection

Reflection: The 9 ways to be happy and make something of your life includes:

1. Be Grateful

2. Be Smart

3. Be Involved in Good Works

4. Be Clean

5. Be True

6. Be Positive

7. Be Humble

8. Be Still

9. Be Prayerful

These nine things will help you in the present and further future.

Commitment

Definition: the state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.

Quote:

“Commitment is the glue that bands you to your goals.”

Reflection: This quote talks about a dedication to target in life. For example, when you have a group project you have to be committed to what you are assigned. If not then you will not achieve a high score on this project. Another example is by showing devotion and knowing everything about the subject whether it’s a school or job project you must do extended research to understand and present the topic clearly.

Obedience

“The key to freedom is obedience.

The more obedient we are, the more freedom we have.”

Boyd K. Packer

Reflection: This is an excellent statement because it is saying that by having more acquiescence you will have additional independence. For example, when you parents tell you to clean the dishes, you show obedience, that’s if you follow their rules. And when you want to go out one day, and you’ve done nearly everything your parent asks for then, they may give you your freedom to leave the house. 

A Smile

Definition: form one's features into a pleased, kind, or amused expression, typically with the corners of the mouth turned up and the front teeth exposed

Quote:

“A journey of a thousand miles begins with a smile”

Reflection: This quote demonstrates that a smile can brighten up anyone’s day. For example, when you’re having a terrible day then someone comes by and smiles at you, you feel invincible. And by that one smile you can feel better like the dark clouds have been lifted from your shoulders. 

Responsible

Definition: having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for someone, as part of one's job or role.

Quote:

“It is not only for what we do that we are held responsible,

But also for what we do not do”

Reflection: This quote indicates that we as an individual must be responsible for what we do. For example, when your teacher leaves you a packet of homework and you are held responsible for turning in the assignment bright and early the next morning. Also, when the house is dirty, you must be responsible to clean up after your mess.

“Decisions Determine Destiny”

Thomas S. Monson

Reflection: This quote is saying that by selecting a determination you want will influence your future. For example, if you start doing drugs, this will affect you in the further future. Like when you spend all your time and money on a drug that makes you feel good. But, then you end up losing your house, family, and friends. Maybe even end up being locked up behind bars or worse. But if you take the other high road like when someone offers you to smoke you say so NO because you know it’s the right thing for you. This relates to the 100+ Life Planning Goals because I one of my goals I wrote to say no to drugs. Plus, I have my goals to get me through my future.